By Scott Thornton

To those who judge superficially and see anything but beauty, take a long walk into a fire ant bed. Surely there will be beauty for you there if this world does not impress.

Beauty is in the eye of each beholder, but each beholder is not qualified to see beauty as God creates it. In other words, anyone looking for beauty with an joyful mind will find it. Perhaps not every face or shape pleases everyone, but who cares! Beauty is much more than what pleases one subjective person with limited vision. Even war, torture and attacks leave a person who has beautiful qualifities. Surely it abounds for all to see — at least those able to see past their own pain.

A Special Statement to Internet and Live Bullies: To those of you who waste your time attacking people with critical, subjective remarks about a person’s appearance, you are wasting your time here. Only God is qualified to judge a person’s worth or if beauty exists within them. You are simply not qualified for such a job. Your comments reflect upon you — a lying human incapable of seeing God’s magnificence and one filled with self-esteem issues. Those with a healthy self image can appreciate beauty in another human far better than those stuck on their own shortcomings. Those who struggle to see if God loves them often want to drag others to their own sewer-level mentality. It is unfortunate, and some of them can bluff you with empty words. But don’t take the bait by even acknowledging such BS! They cannot see beauty in themselves, let alone you. PS: Don’t let me catch you acting like an angry brat around anyone in my world. You wouldn’t like me when I’m angry — or protecting a loved one.

If you are gifted in a physical sense, certain people will tell you that you are beautiful. It’s a temporary gift for most us. Don’t use it as a tool to torment or manipulate; it will cost you later if appearance is your primary talent in life. Still take care of your body, skin, hair, etc. In most cases, God only allocates one full set. 

If you are gifted with a special ability, your work is likely to earn you kind remarks from admirers. Artists like authors, photographers, illustrators and more will hear from time to time that their work is beautiful. It’s a way of complimenting what is beautiful inside the writer, the creative soul and the image taker. Whatever your gift, give it away. Learn to see beauty in everyone and every event, and you will eternally live in a gorgeous world.

If you are known for having a huge heart and patience, beauty pours from you every time you speak. Your wisdom and kind words each day are a blessing to all you meet. Forgiveness does not happen in the heart of the angry and frustrated, nor the superficial and selfish. All of these Godly skills are blessings from Jesus, bestowed especially on those who walk a special path and set a righteous example for mankind. I am amazed by those I call friends who can inspire me with a special “thank you” when they have helped me — and I have done so little for my friend in that moment.

If you take charge and lead in every situation, God has granted you the strength of leadership. Without your rare blessings, lives can perish in an instant, and mistakes are made by less decisive minds. Leaders display their beauty be taking the reins when others won’t. Are you the George Washington, Abraham Lincoln or Ronald Reagan of your friends, each time you start a conversation, solve a dilemma and pull a friend out of the road, you are beautiful. The world needs each of our talents, and leaders are the key to change. Keep chugging.

If you bring smiles and merriment to every event you attend, you are surely God’s child ordained with a special  sense of humor. Where you go, the fun follows. Spontaneity is your middle name. And the Lord has blessed you with the unique ability to ease tension, “make ’em laugh” and bring a smile to everyone’s face. That comic skill is God’s beauty as you can distract or stop evil intent and lead a man or woman to re-evaluate if their original thoughts are valid.

On a more serious side, beauty can also be revealed by the person digging up facts and evaluating the numbers when an overwhelming situation arrives. The man or woman who uncovers the ultimate solution to a large wall of numbers will be hoisted and promoted for their magic answer. Despite their clothing, their hair and other alleged shortcomings, this answer man could easily get on a roll and be a vice president in 2-5 years. Now that’s a beautiful thing.

While physical beauty in humans is most commonly observed by an enormous media world, it should not be your goal as a young person to be only beautiful. Beauty vanishes over time. Develop your true personal strengths and your base character — one filled with integrity, love, kindness, loyalty, faithfulness and hope. Be known for these wherever you live and work.

With these and God’s help,  you can clear any hurdle. With these, you will set an example that will inspire others to follow in your footsteps today and tomorrow.

Beauty is truly everywhere you look if you learn to recognize it. I saw beauty all over in the last week. Some at a wedding. Some at a party. Some on the face of a wonderfully curious child. Some in acts of kindness. Some in dedication. Some in charity. And so many more in random acts of love shared with total strangers.

Like love, beauty is everywhere, ladies and gentlemen. You simply have to open your eyes, open your heart and embrace the next beautiful thing that happens in your life. 

Be brave. Be beautiful.



By Terry Carter

Fox ran a story recently about Houston Texans All-Pro defensive end J.J. Watt and his search for a girlfriend.

Advice for this amazing athlete will likely run the gamut — and women are certain to look for a connection since he is GQ handsome by all standards. But J.J. does face a dilemma with his celebrity status and his annual income. Both attract a wide range of superficial and money-hungry types. 

Both can look amazing in the right light… for a short time. However all of us default to our true selves once we have reached the goal we seek. In this case, it’s the hand of the talented and eligible J.J. Watt.

J.J. — Your options are many, and your quality choices may be minimal. First choice, are you ready to go the distance to find a mature  — not old — quality girl with the right background, who can become your dream girl? If you are looking for a wife and say so, it won’t diminish the crowd of pretty girls ready to meet you.

But it would make your intentions clear. And perhaps the girls I refer to as lethal weapons won’t want to invest time and effort to win you to the dark side. 

First take a self inventory. Besides rooms full of cash, what personal qualities, convictions and beliefs do you have that a future girlfriend should know about? One day the physique won’t be as intimidating. So rule that out to impress a girl in your mind. Are you loyal, funny, polite, kind, forgiving, generous? Those help in any situation, but be aware, those strengths can also be taken advantage of by a conniving person.

So know yourself, your strengths and weaknesses. I recommend keeping the weaknesses to yourself, but working on them consistently to make them strengths — just as you have as an athlete. Avoid weaknesses if you haven’t mastered them yet. For example, don’t walk through casinos if you have a tendency to bet.

Then make a long, detailed list of the female you want God to find for you. Keep in mind, God’s choice is his ideal for you to know and improve. She won’t be perfect — just amazing in the right ways. 

She may never have attended a Texans game, but she loves football, for example. She cooks even better than you do at HEB. And she absolutely must be brave, smart and mature enough to deal with your stardom and a certain amount of confidence that comes with dating you. Otherwise she will soon be feeling left out of your busy life — and consequently make you feel horrible as a result.

Best advice? Volunteer in where good people congregate like churches, non-profits and go to events with friends. Your next serious girlfriend must be a friend first before the next step should be taken. And a celebrity with money, a bright future, good looks and morals/integrity is a rare indivdual indeed.

If you want to explore how a celebrity can marry just once and make it work for life, don’t waste your time talking to Snoop Dog and virtually anyone in Hollywood. Talk to people who have made it work under than media spotlight like Houston country musicians Clint Black and Lisa Hartman Black. In fact, country singers in general have a tendency to find lasting relationships. 

I specialize in analyzing the psychological makeup of people. But the old mantra still works the best: Judge not a person on their kind words. Judge them based on their actions to understand their true heart and intentions. Actions always speak louder than words. And the contrast between the two reveals how honest and trustworthy  that person truly is.

Best of luck, J.J. You appear to be a great guy. If an objective eye would help you in this endeavor, let me know. 



By Scott Thornton

After an overload of horrific images on Sept. 11, 2001, and several days thereafter, the censors plaguing American with politically-correct broadcasts and everyone-wins mindsets took over.

Since then even the best media outlets have searched for uplifting, hopeful stories in the carnage. The lone survivor from the World Trade Center floor number something. The brave firemen who saved many and sacrificed their lives for others. The inspiring construction of what stands in the place of the WTC now.

All are valid, emotional stories; some inspire, some are feel-good pieces.

But for my money, I don’t want anyone in the United States to never forget the melting steel after two fully-loaded aircraft carrying hundreds of passengers and thousands of pounds of fuel just itching for a spark intentionally hit the towers. Supports and cement meant nothing after a little time as temperatures melted the steel frame and reinforcements. 

The rest was ripped to shreds by what many would call “lunatics” or “crazy men.” Soon enough on Sept. 11, 2001, the world watched as these fine buildings crashed to the ground, but not before dozens jumped out of windows 30+ stories up to escape immense heat and toxic fumes.

Those who jumped, at least, died their way — not in an insane man’s inferno. And for those fleeting seconds as their bodies fluttered in the wind, they forever seared in my mind an image as clear as JFK’s assassination, as clear as the Pearl Harbor bombing, and as eternal the signing of the Declaration of Independence.

Those who jumped were, indeed, brave souls. I am not a fan of gross pictures, video or terrible events. But we, as Americans, must not forget this event. Nor should be play if off as a one-time rarity.

To me, the jumpers implied, at least to me, that “everyone-wins” scenarios are useless today. And politically-correct talk should be stuffed in a turkey and cooked beyond recognition. 

No, sir! There will be no happy meal today as we cheer the fact we were not in New York that day. So we survived — big jelly beans! Now make something unique and significant of your time on this planet. Make up for the good people who died an unspeakable way on Sept. 11, 2001 by helping those who remain.

Do not go quietly to your next planned event on Sept. 11 or any other day. Watch the fire, the jumpers, the planes plowing into two buidlings and the millions of affected lives. And always remember that pain. Let it push to take positive action everyday. Hug someone who was there. Comfort them if you like  “feel-good” stories.

Get off the couch and stop lounging because you may — just may — have a good income, a good family and a career that allows you to sleep somewhere other than under rat-plagued, downtown bridge.

Life can be ugly. Do not run from ugly — it’s all around you. If you drive a new car, consider yourself blessed. But step up and help the thousands of people within arm’s reach of you who cannot afford to buy milk every week. They cannot afford to go to the doctor or to keep a job if they repair their dying automobile.

If all you look for are stories to make you feel good, you are missing a main point in this world. Help the less successful people to climb out of that pothole. They are scared to ask you for help. But you can do so much for them in just 30 minutes. That will make you the star of a fel-good event.

And by making them a meal or tying their shoes, you also improve yourself by learning to relate to the many, many people who live a low-income or middle-income life. Even $60,000 a year is hardly a good wage today, and the median income in the United States is far lower than that. Imagine that.

Help others daily, and you will be more understanding, generous and relatable. And never again, can you be categorized as “out-of-touch” with society’s needs like so many wealthy political candidates do. God Bless the little people who do the hard work with their hands.