Recognizing Predators In Our World

By Terry Carter, Editor

Even those who have been abused as children and learned how to cope in society often don’t know how to recognize the subtle signs of a sexual predator.
Today we will approach the subject and provide basic tips of what could raise your guard even among those you trust. This article is for parents and children to increase their awareness and safety. It is also the first of a series of articles on these overlooked topics.
Be aware that unlike many crimes, sexual predators are not restricted to a certain age range, socio-economic background, race, culture or profession.
Interviews and research data are overwhelming: Sexual predators look like our most trusted family and friends. They are among us whether we like it or not. It is better to be aware and cautious rather than become an eventual victim.
This is not a call for panic. It is a call for increased awareness because publicized cases are increasing, which may indicate that predatory behavior is expanding.
Learn the signs. Trust your gut. And report things to the proper authorities, including three levels of administration and the police, as well as Child Protective Services (CPS).
Predators, including pedophiles, blend into society as a concerned citizen offering help. They look good and sound good. They count on naîve, trust from those who know them well.
Life’s most fundamental relationship rule works here as you learn what to look for: Actions speak louder than words. It works in relationships, friendships, work environments and even if you have a predator living with you today.

Choose to learn and choose to not be a victim. There are millions of victims in the United States alone,

A person made this recent post to Dr. Katherine Ramsland, Phd.’s blog about the challenge safety-concerned people have in the battle to recognize and prevent predators: “‘I’m always struck by how, after some act of violence, fraud, or sexual abuse, everyone laments: ‘Someone must have known! Why didn’t they say anything?’ And yet, time after time, it seems those who are in a position to see are sidelined, discredited, or disbelieved.’”
Ramsland Katherine Ramsland, Ph.D., is a professor of forensic psychology at DeSales University and the author of 60 books.
She continues with her interpretation. “My sense of it is this: People who can spot predators are ignored for reasons similar to those that blind many people to these offenders in the first place—distortion and denial. Predators count on it, especially in those rare times when someone is savvy enough to spot them and try to alert others.
“The fact is, we’re often just not prepared to accept that evil can get so close to us. As frustrating as it can be for those whose warnings fall on deaf ears, it’s normal to interpret the behavior of those we know in the most benign and ordinary frame.”

In an online article for PsychologyToday.com, Ramsland wrote “Three Signs of an Inconspicuous Predator In Your Midst.” It is partially based off her book called, Inside the Minds of Serial Killers. She suggests that sexual predators, con artists and others are similar in their predatory methods.Predators after our children do not look like uneducated monsters. Ramsland details community involvement and high educational backgrounds of numerous serial murderers like Ted Bundy, John Wayne Gacy and Jeffrey Dahmer.Dahmer’s father made this statement after his son’s trial: “Lionel Dahmer, Jeffrey Dahmer’s father, wrote a book after watching his son’s 1992 trial for the murder of 17 men and realized that the manner in which he’d interpreted Jeffrey’s behavior had been naïve, influenced by his personal fears. “I allowed myself to believe Jeff,” Lionel mused, “…to accept all his answers regardless of how implausible they might seem….More than anything, I allowed myself to believe that there was a line in Jeff, a line he wouldn’t cross…My life became an exercise in avoidance and denial.””
Don’t allow personal feelings to cloud your judgement on issues. It happens to the best when our family, best friend or long-time preacher has done something that raises the hair on your neck. We often refuse to acknowledge the facts. That is a major advantage that predators count to stay active and addicted to harming others.

• Approximately 90 percent of all childhood sexual abuse occurs with someone the child knows and has a trusted relationship with. Only 10 percent are strangers.
• According to the National Center for Exploited and Missing Children, 20 percent of girls and 10 percent of boys are sexually exploited before they reach adulthood. 84 percent of children sexually abused are victimized between the ages of 9-12.
• Fewer than 35 percent of these case are reported to authorities. Reasons for not reporting range from guilt/shame to fear, possible judgement and more. Predators also coerce children into silence with threats, promises and false statements, such as: “This is normal at your age” or “Your parents told me to do this.”

STEPS TO HELP
SafelyEverAfter.com has posted 10 Play-It-Safe Rules for adults and children to use daily. They are designed for children of all ages. Here is a summary:
1—I am the BOSS of my body.
2—I know my name, address, phone number and my parents’ names and cell phone numbers too.
3—Safe, Smart Grownups don’t ask kids for HELP. They ask other adults.
4—I never go ANYWHERE or take ANYTHING from someone I don’t know.
5—I must check first with my Safe, Smart Grownups for PERMISSION. If I don’t check first and receive permission, the answer is NO.
6—Everyone’s bathing suit areas are private.
7—I don’t have to be polite (or quiet) if someone makes me feel uncomfortable or scared. It is OK to say NO.
8—I don’t keep SECRETS, especially if they make me feel scared or uneasy. NO PARENT should tell a child to keep a SECRET.
9—If I ever get lost in a public place, I can FREEZE or YELL or go to a mom with other children and ask for help.
10—I will always pay attention to my Special Inner Voice, especially if I get an “UH-OH” feeling.

• More on this continuing series will be posted here on the Facebook.com page below: facebook.com/terry.carter.free

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Did Diet Cause My Diabetes?

A quick story for parents: When I was 11 years old, I was a good tennis player, a junior golfer with numerous tournament victories, and a solid catcher for my Little League team.
That spring I finished fifth grade as the top academic student and was pretty popular among my classmates. I helped and coached others, but I had a health problem brewing that would change my life forever.
In November 1975, my brother was diagnosed with Type I Diabetes. I was given a grueling, 6-hour, glucose-tolerance test at that time and was cleared of the chronic disease. At the time, no expert advised us of a way to battle the disease and possibly prevent the disease. We dealt with the symptoms, and my brother started taking insulin shots daily, eating less (portion control primarily) and checking sugar content regularly.
Because we didn’t know better, I continued to eat my favorite foods although I was in good shape for an athlete. Hot dogs, applesauce, 3-5 Cokes, a bag of chips were my go-to snacks and meals before dinner. My mom, a registered nurse, made quality meals for us, but carbs were an unknown factor then. It was a daily battle to control sugars and find enough food to stay healthy.
YouTube videos, books nor doctors were stating recommending the low-carb options that do not raise blood sugars. It was trial-and-error for my brother. And eight months later in June 1976, I joined him as a Type 1 (insulin-dependent) Diabetic.
Now we were both taking shots and reacting to high and low blood sugars after-the-fact because testing sugar in urine is not as accurate as testing blood.
Thank God technology has made testing blood sugars as easy as a finger stick or now using the recently-introduced Freestyle Libre. It is a patch on your arm that checks blood sugars instantly for 10 days, showing spikes/trends to help control life.
Librapic
Libra is one step toward conquering diabetes. Insulin developments have also improved dramatically. Other inventions will eventually cure diabetics just as other auto-immune illnesses will likely vanish in the next 2-5 generations.
As parents, our job is to fill our homes with food for our family. May I suggest that you focus on a tasty, fresh menu of organic vegetables, fruits and the leanest of meats (beef, fish). I leave chicken off because it is purposely filled with sodium/water before sale to the groceries for profit, and that sodium hurts and hardens our veins and arteries. Not good.
Also because plants, veggies and fruits no longer contain the same level of nutrition they once did due to soil depletion on farms, it is vital to supplement with an equally diverse assortment of natural products, including minerals, vitamins, carotenoids, phytochemicals and much more.
Supplements are life-saving keys for millions.
In Earl Mindell’s Supplement Bible, he states early in the book that we need to take more than the U.S. Government’s Recommended Daily Allowance (RDA). “Today we know that vitamins and minerals do more than protect us from diseases: They play a key role in PREVENTING many diseases, including cancer, heart disease and even depression,” he wrote.
Growing up, I hated eating vegetables other than potatoes and carrots. Now I invite 10-20 additional veggies to my plate each week because they are good for me and will help me remain healthy. Last week I worked with my wife on a veggie-filled, anti-cancer salad. It was pretty good although I still cannot define the taste of Bok Choi.
spinach chicken pomegranate salad

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In 1976, the hospital doctors told me that if I eat well, monitor my sugars closely and exercise, I may live to be about 60 or 63. At 53 and stronger, more energetic than ever, I am determined to keep improving. I do blame my diet, which was exceedingly high in sugars, processed food and carbs, as a contributing factor to shutting down my pancreas, thereby bringing diabetes into my life. We had no idea then. In retrospect, however, poor dietary habits may have caused a life-long disease that has been my challenger each day.
May this story of my struggles and hard-earned knowledge inspire those of you with — and without — health issues to improve your chances in life of living to an old age and enjoying your years. Learn now to fight for your rights to live a healthy life and to heal through nutrition, supplements and nutraceuticals.
That is far better than struggling to breathe and stuck in a bed waiting for your death to relieve your agony. Rich or poor, with or without insurance, we can all eat healthier. Growing tomatoes was fun for my mom, and even the poorest among us can manage that addition to the diet.
In recent years, I have given up all carbonated beverages, especially sodas, and gone to water, tea and occasionally milk (no dairy issues here). Chips are a small part of my diet, and so are processed junk food with no nutritional value like Ding Dongs. They are only necessary when blood sugar fall rapidly below normal.
As you shop with a well-prepared list, may I suggest you ask yourself one life-sustaining question regarding each item you place in your basket: Will this item improve my life with nutrients or does it just taste good? I say flood your grocery basket with nutrient-rich foods and all-natural supplements sourced from fruits and veggies you may be missing. Then you may find more energy, fewer colds and a chance to avoid what has changed my life forever — a chronic disease afflicting every moment of your existence.

WHY CANCER IS KICKING YOUR BUTT

By Terry Carter

Cancer patients literally fight for a healthy life — and in nearly half of overall cases, for life itself — by turning to medical professionals. And those doctors and researchers have valid treatments for the more than 1.7 million new cancer patients expected to be diagnosed this year (2018).

According to information published on the American Cancer Society page in July 2018, about 42 percent of new cancer cases could potentially be avoided. Data suggests that of approximately 729,000 cases expected this year, 19 percent could be caused by smoking and 18 percent by a combination of excess body weight, alcohol consumption, lack of exercise and poor nutrition.

What causes cancer is undetermined despite a tremendous amount of research. Mounting evidence, however, is beginning to suggest a winning method to prevent and fight cancer.

For a good number of cancer patients, radiation, chemotherapy, hormone therapy, dietary changes and/or surgery are common. Several of those options are nearly as bad as the cancer itself, according to some patients. Others I know have opted to stop radiation and chemo sessions and just let cancer run its course.

We all know people who have lost their lives to cancer or are battling their personal battle, hoping to beat the odds. And for those with severe forms attacking the pancreas, lung, esophagus, brain and stomach cancer, survival rates today are smaller than 15 percent with pancreatic cancer hardly making progress from the survival rate of the early 1970s.

Cancer patients are literally fighting for their lives, and a diagnosis means all focus has to go to this battle. It is also a costly battle that can take years or weeks. Approximately half of all cancer diagnosed patients survive, according to a variety of studies that measure survival for different lengths of time.

Survivors are a brave lot, and they often know they have escaped the grip of death. I know dozens of cancer survivors, and I applaud them for never quitting, for fighting harder than they thought possible and for pushing their medical staff for better solutions.

Many questions remain about cancer and why this wicked prognosis can hit the apparently healthy, as well as the those who invite cancer into their lives with cigars, cigarettes, tobacco, alcohol, zero or low-sunscreen protection when they go outside, obesity/inactive lifestyle and other linked factors.

The question is: How do you avoid or prevent cancer from consuming your best years? Doctors, researchers and nutritionists continue to accumulate evidence that eating certain diets can make a difference in the battle against cancer. Of course not everyone agrees with this the possibility that the body can care for itself when given the proper health.

Key factors in the healthiest cancer-conscious diets benefit from the following:

• Diets rich in antioxidants, which battle free radicals in your body. Free radicals are one of cancer’s best allies, and your worst enemy. Among the many antioxidants today include vitamins A, C, E and minerals like Selenium are early members of this health-based club.

• Plant-based diets, often focused on super fooddsare popular among those battling heart disease and strokes, and those fruit and vegetable helpings are also powerful in delivering the antioxidants the body craves to help you reach optimal health. Ten servings a day of each food group is an ambitious goal for vegans and vegetarians adamant about maximizing their health.

• Supplementation is essential for even the healthiest diets today, according to many nutrition advocates and nutritionists. Because today’s soil is depleted of minerals, the benefits of one cup of spinach harvested and eaten in 1970 requires more than 10 cups of spinach today, experts say.

° A postscript to this list for carnivores and omnivores — yes, that is a large majority of Americans and the world population — beware. “A cancer-conscious consumer should be wary of processed meats, such as hot dogs, ham and bacon, which the International Agency for Research on Cancer classified as a carcinogen (cancer causing),” according to a 2018 quote in Newsweek’s special edition Nature’s Remedies, Heal Your Body.

Recently a local physician told me that most doctors did not receive much training in nutrition, except in medical school. An article in Newsweek’s special edition called Nature’s Remedies, Heal Your Body, entitled “Eating For Cancer” seemed to confirm that statement.

The article mentioned that 600,000 Americans lost their lives to cancer in 2016. It also included this quote from Dr. Keith Block, co-founder of the Block Center Integrative Cancer Treatment, who wrote in the newsletter Nutrition Digest: “While perhaps a third of all cancers are related to dietary factors, only a few people in contemporary American medicine realize that a well-structured, nutritional regimen may be useful in the treatment of cancer, as well as essential in cancer prevention.”

Another article, “Supplements for Treating and Preventing Cancer” in the July/August 2018 edition of Well Being Journal, stated positive research of several items from a book called Outside The Box Cancer Therapies. The article by Dr.s Mark Stengler and Paul Anderson noted a synergistic effect of supplements like Acetyl-L-Carnitine (ALC), Astragalus, Cannabinoids like CBB oil and Resveratrol among others with conventional therapies to reduce treatment “side effects, improving immunity, improving quality of life and improving outcomes.”

Super Foods like the proclaimed King of Fruits, the Alaskan Wild Blueberry, which is more potent and resilient than standard blueberries, lead the health parade. Science continues to identify more antioxidants and Super Foods to keep the body healthy. It is amazing what the body can accomplish with a bit more nutrition. As a Type I Diabetic, I can attest to that.

An overall supplement pack I began taking recently has delivered in ways I never imagined: Significantly more energy, better control of my blood sugars, better endurance and strength at the gym, faster and thicker hair/nail growth, reduced medicine dosages, improved immune system and improved vision.

I have read more than 1,000 testimonies about improvements on health from patients with at least 80 different illnesses, including Lupus, Fibro Myalgia, diabetes, cancer, ADD/ADHS, depression and heart health issues. These personal testimonials prompted additional research on my part for this initial article to bring to light the benefits of natural health and nutrition.

Cancer does not run in my family. However I care deeply for millions who face the disease for first time each year. Evidence is suggesting there are alternative methods to help patients who want a second opinion. Contact World Wellness Today for more details.

THE WIDOWMAKER: HEART ATTACKS ARE ENTIRELY PREVENTABLE

By Terry Carter and Steve Rogers

More than 600,000 Americans die annually due to heart attacks. For more than 30 percent of them, their fatal cardiac arrest was their first event, according to a hard-hitting Netflix documentary airing now.

Does heart disease run in your family or a friend’s family? If so, find “The Widowmaker” on Netflix and learn what some physicians may not be sharing with you about prevention and a coronary artery scan for calcium. Additionally consider that heart attacks and strokes are completely preventable if you take the right steps, cardiologists say.

Some solutions, however, are not included in the documentary. I will explain later.

The 600,000 number exceeds the number of annual deaths from all cancers combined. Millions of lives have been lost while heart disease testing and treatments have improved. According to the documentary, about one-third of heart attack patients are asymptomatic. In other words, they had no signs of heart disease before the fatal episode.

In some cases, the asymptomatic heart attacks happen to lean, athletic people who eat healthy, exercise 5-7 days a week and appear in great shape. They had zero indicators of an unhealthy heart, doctors and patients on the documentary stated. More women die of heart attack than men, and five times as women die of heart attack than breast cancer.

“The Widowmaker” is essentially a documentary about the battle between finding heart disease before cardiac arrest starts or treating it with a stent or by-pass surgery after that initial heart attack. That strategy, if my math is correct, allows for nearly 200,000 people in the U.S. to die annually because they don’t live long enough to undergo potentially life-saving by-pass or stent surgery.

If, as the documentary portrays, insurance companies cover a $30,000 stent operation, but do not cover a $200 coronary artery scan, that is bad news for prevention.

But Texans have an advantage over much of the nation in that a 2009 bill called the Texas Heart Attack Prevention Bill was signed into state law by Texas Governor Rick Perry. The law requires insurance companies to pay for CT scans and ultrasound tests that can detect heart disease, particularly plaque and calcium deposits that clogs blood vessels like the coronary arteries. Age ranges and health conditions exist, so check this out before you march in and demand full re-imbursement.

Other states have not introduced such a measure, which is still debated between legislators, medical professionals and insurance companies. Texas apparently stands as the first exception to the logic that treating a heart attack may be better than preventing it. But it is a battle that has cost thousands of lives since the test was created.

While I will not be a physician, I know common sense when I see it. Prevention is better. The CT scan and the ultrasound of the heart are very helpful in current analysis, even when a stress test and EKG have failed to find an heart issue. Watch “The Widowmaker” carefully.

In the name of prevention, it is also important to eat the right foods, not just any healthy diet. I have run across supplements that help diabetics like myself, and diabetics are more likely to have heart disease. Additionally I have researched and uncovered with the assistance of forward-thinking medical professionals, diets and supplementation options that should become a daily part of the every man and woman’s diet with no exceptions.

Again, I ask you: Do you have heart disease in your family? Or do you have a friend, neighbor or co-worker who has mentioned a heart attack or stroke in their family? That covers a majority of families in America, by the way.

If so, take unreasonable action today and stop sitting on your butt waiting for your first — and possibly last — cardiac arrest event. Email me at retiredbrucelee@gmail.com for simple details that may help enormously that your medical professional either doesn’t know or may not share. I have total respect for physicians, and I have learned they are brilliant in many areas. But nutrition and prevention are not high on that list.

Get the tests mentioned above today. If you live in Texas, the tests must be covered by your insurance. Even out-of-pocket cost on one test is around $200.

Then email me for a plan that can keep you out of the hospital.

ASK BIG, PRAY BIG, LIVE BIG  

  • EACH DAY YOU CHOOSE EITHER A SLAVE MENTALITY OR GOD’S ABUNDANT MENTALITY

By Terry Carter, Editor

When we hear of a friend or relative speak of a blessing, an opportunity or a miracle in their life, why do we doubt that a great gift could exist for them?

Is God unable to hear our prayers and bless us in special ways? No, God hears all of us, but some prayers – like the ones Pastor Joel Osteen spoke of recently – seem to remain unanswered. And like most of you, I feel frustrated without instant gratification of my prayers. What Paster Joel Osteen recently mentioned during a televised sermon is changing my mind regarding routine ideas, prayers in my life because they often orginate from a limited or “slave mentality.”

When we pray, do we ask God to keep us alive through a tough time or to keep our old car running? Those are weak prayers. By asking and praying big, I suggest you ask God not to become a better slave in your current life. Ask to become a better dreamer, a better achiever, a better go-getter, to set a new standard for this generation. 

How big are your dreams? Ask big today!


Our God is the God of abundance, and you cannot reach your fullness in life without asking for and pursuing your biggest dreams. In order to reach grand dreams, you must first begin to think great thoughts and envision greatness in your life.

 Now will God make you rich, famous and fabulous just so you can look good on the red carpet? It is unlikely you will be blessed greatly despite a strong prayer unless you also tell God that you will give back and help others.

The Book of James 4 describes praying a sick prayer, a weak prayer or a prayer for the wrong motives that seems to go unanswered. Joel suggests that asking God for big dreams and miracles is exactly what the Lord wants.

When we ask God, we acknowledge that He and Jesus can do the impossible. When the blind men called out to Jesus, Jesus asked them what they wanted

You are God’s prized creation, the apple of His eye. Joel suggested asking Him daily for your biggest dreams like it is your special birthday. It is the Father’s good pleasure to give you treasure. Be bold enough to ask. Ask big in child-like faith, and there will be times when God will show you miracles even though it looks impossible in your eyes.


God said you are to reign over your life – not hide in the shadows hoping the poverty, pain and desperation will subside one day.  What you do will prosper and grow abundantly, based on The Bible. The Lord will give you the desires of your heart if you “ask for explosive blessings.”

So why do so many of us back away from helping friends and chasing our dreams? I have seen good christian people turn their back on a friend who is offering needed help or an opportunity. Often their reasoning for rejecting the gift is unsupported by facts, but I suspect they lack an inspired dream – or they are too embarrassed or complacent to improve their situation.

Sitting on the sidelines and watching the world go by is not God’s plan for us. We are directed to seek out and pursue Godly, inspired dreams, missions, achievements. I believe we should look for inspiration each day in nature, in music, in art, in people, in love, in friends, in business and much more. 

Regardless of your sex, dimensions, skin color, education, you were created for greatness. Either you pursue that every day, or you avoid it by running away from inspiring moments, great people and life-altering events. Will you boldly ask for blessings and go where no man, woman or child has gone before?


My next area of greatness will never be reached by me if I sit at home watching TV each night. Because big ideas come true for others, I know I can also strive for better results and perhaps great memories. Success will never be a destination. It is simply a journey I am taking up a tall, amazing mountain slope where the view improves with each step I take. 

Success is reached daily by moving – sometimes falling – forward. I am traveling on this global quest with many inspired friends, and the comradery makes the sore legs and stumbles all the more memorable. They are quality people with big dreams, big prayers and big needs – all of which Jesus can meet at the right time. And failure is a healthy part of success – don’t think you can reach the pinnacle of life without hard work and failure.

Perhaps our journey together would be even better if our prayers also became fearless as we pray for dynamic miracles to help millions of people insteadof hundreds of people. For we are all humans, and each of us is a miracle worthy of great prayers, great blessings, great healing, great recovery, great strides and great achievements that may shock our own families.

But for the one small child who today decides that she will be the first Master’s Degree in her family, I say, congratulations. See it today. Chase it each day, week and year – and your life’s successes will begin today and never stop. You can climb higher and higher on the journey to success. Their is not summit – just more joy and challenge ahead.

See the biggest dream, and go get it.

TINY TRAINING ADVICE

By Terry Carter, Editor

I am not a physical trainer. However I listen to trainers, athletes and read the best advice available as I continue to chase my goal weight. So I consider myself pretty informed compared to most people who enter the commonplace weight room for a workout.

I like to start with stretches because I’m older than dirt. Don’t argue — I’m probably a century older than you. Regardless stretching is essential for everyone, whether round or thin, tall or short, male or female. After a 5-minute, warmup stretch, then start with a walk to get you perspiring.

Why? Because you don’t visit the gym in shorts and a muscle shirt just to because you bought new running shoes. Sweat matters. For many of us, the more we perspire, the more weight we lose. My experience is ongoing, but I’ve seen that fat areas start  to slim down where I perspire the most. Even my neck dropped 1.5 inches in the past year due to evening walks, mixed with short sprints and some strength work in the gym.

PS — The strength work probably does not help your waist, neck, thighs unless you work in classic Circuit Training style. Translation: Medium-to-heavy weights, high intensity and very little breakdown between exercises or sets. Bruce Lee used this method to create the best real world physique ever — and remember Bruce was amazingly lean.

So I’m calling this workout the Midlife Fundamentals for those of us who fit this generous description: No longer 30; no longer as thin as we once were;  no longer as strong as we once were; no longer flexible. OK some of you were cheerleaders, and others never stretchy. You know who you are. We all have things to deal with — stand tall.

After stretching, a 5-10 minute walk/run is essential to start the sweating, aka weight loss. If you are a slow starter like me or you haven’t worked out in a while, sprint at least 3 times for 30-60 seconds. You know what kind of shape you are in. So give it 70-80 percent of your top speed. For me that is about 6 miles per hour.  Have mercy on me, you younger athletes. I realize you can fly at 15-18 mph and keep it at 12 mph for complete 5k run. 

Here is a quick anecdote that may prove helpful to your workouts: I was at the gym today and observed a personal trainer there working with several female clients. I noticed that some of the people coming to the gym consistently focus only on their strengths, aka strong guys work on strength exercises; thin girls focus on burning calories on a treadmill. My advice to myself and you is simple: If you are actually overweight like me, use their calorie-burning, endurance excises for 60-70 percent of your gym time. If you are thin and not entered in 

Now for 3 upper body strength exercises. Minimize the break time to keep your heart beating fast by perspiring. Remember to vary your various exercises, the amount of weight, the repetitions/sets so that your strength exercises continue to put muscle where you need it. Schwartenegger set the bar in the 1970s at Mr. Universe with legendary trainer Joe Wieder by varying his intense workouts. 

I focus on my back, shoulders and whole arms (biceps, triceps). I use cables, an adjustable military press and a lat pull down machine frequently. Use what machines you prefer, including free weights. BTW guys: It’s not necessary to workout your biceps with a 100-pound barbell each time you visit a gym. Every muscle needs 36-64 hours to recover from an intense workout. Working hard on the same, sore muscles you used yesterday results in more extreme soreness and virtually flat-line growth.

Then go to core exercises and/or machines. One abdominal machine I started on 2 years ago was brutal. I could not move the machine with only 10 pounds on it. I know somebody was probably laughing at me struggling to do a seated crunch. But  I endured the moment. Better technique and time have helped me to now workout with 60-80 pounds. I’m hoping to max out at 100 pounds this summer. 

Another point: If you go to a weight room more than once, you should max out on all the machines you will frequent so you can create your standardized 3 sets, 10 reps workout with the proper weight. In reality, most people — including me — cheat on the 3 sets/10 rep standard we all heard of or read about years ago. If I am trying to build a little muscle, I will find a weight that allows me to barely finish 8 reps and either 2 or 3 sets. If my goal is to burn fat/calories, then I increase my repetitions to 12-15 and do 3-4 sets with a lighter weight on the bar.

Once the core is worked over — and certain dense much groups like calves and abdominals can be worked harder due to their ability to bounce back quicker — move on to legs. Like I said earlier, I’m ancient. So I can’t do all the leg workouts. But a leg press do in 4 different positions with the maximun knee bend can do wonders for your inner, outer thighs, as well as calves. Let me know if you need more details on this.

Finally when you are feeling leg weary, you have 2 choices to complete the gym portion of your workout. Either go swimming for 30 minutes like I did recently, or go 15-30 minutes on a treadmill, Stair Master or elliptical. Or just go for a jog in a nearby park.

Invest in a 30-45 minute workout like that 2-3 times each week and try to go walking before or after work for 30-60 minutes with a friend or pet. And you will be feeling 10 years younger if you embrace the fun some people call hard work. Check with your physician before you go to the gym to get some advice and approval for such an exercise plan. I started taking the tiny aspirin tablet each morning years ago, and I find it makes me more comfortable when I get to the park or the gym with big ideals of an intense workout.

Don’t get me wrong. I’ve lost a little weight, about 25 pounds. However I still have 30 pounds to go. I’m not perfect and never will be. If you prefer sitting in a lounge chair and smoking a cigar while laughing at my efforts, I wish you well. But I really wish — under my breath — that you would get out of that sleeping chair and join me at Cullen Park near Barker Cypress…

…At least when it’s not flooded. 

A Tale of Dogs, Cats

Watching people at the park is educational at times. But even more telling is watching people with dogs and/or cats in any environment.
As a dog lover, I have had many dogs in my life, both large and small. These days, our family has two fat, lazy cats. It's an interesting contrast as well.
Dogs are usually loyal, loving and playful. Cats are typically aloof, regal and slightly more demanding when it comes to food and water.
But even those descriptions are subjective as any cat lover will explain emphatically.
I have had the best of dogs (thanks to my parents), the best trained of dogs (thanks to my elder daughter) and a Chihuahua that acted a bit like a dictator on steroids — thanks to Pancho for leaving my toes intact.
The best of dogs was a greyhound mongrel named Tex. He was supremely athletic and ran circles around all of the neighborhood kids in Michigan. The 6-foot, chain-linked, metal fence could not hold him when he decided to take a day trip.
He sailed over the fence with one bound and would usually return within 36 hours with dirt on his white fur and a dead animal in his mouth. Tex didn't dig holes in the ground by his fence. He simply jumped over the fence again and curled up for a nap.
For all of his strength and speed, Texas very gentle around young children. However he may be the real reason why postal delivery people still have his picture posted on their Most Wanted wall.

Pancho, the chihuahua, weighed a scant three pounds. Even living in snow-covered Michigan didn't calm his nerves. He easily qualified as the next of kin to any mass murderer in history,
Pancho, to be polite, was a short male determined to overachieve and rule the world. He began growling and biting toes at a young age.
When he was two years old, the under-sized Rambo made two enormous leaps to reach the dinner table and grabbed my steak dinner. Pancho then ran off with a steak that weighed nearly half his body weight. From then on, Pancho only increased his dangerous ways.

While the canines are hilarious to watch, many people treat their dogs and cats as if they are human children.
It's difficult to give a dog or cat convincing human characteristics. However we humans often prefer trying to win a cat's love and affection — good luck — over the more complex challenges of human interaction.
I know some great people who have no children, but their cat or dog has all the privileges of a spoiled child. Special treats, special sweaters, gourmet food and posh appointments at the doggie/kitty day spa (aka veterinarian).
Some will tell you that every animal deserves to be treated like royalty instead of left under a bridge to fight with other animals.
The same line of thinking says spay/neuter all animals to minimize overpopulation.
While I am an animal lover, I see animals for what they are: animals, not humans. Certainly taking care of an animal is a legitimate concern. But the level of spoiling that dogs, cats see today is amazing.
It's too much for a healthy family to endure.

Those who enable their pet to run their lives need to look closely at why their home is partially run by a 4-legged animal with a limited vocabulary. By “run,” I mean the animal wakes you up at 4 or 5 a.m. on Sunday because it’s the time they know your predictable schedule — or worse, because they are hungry and their patience is running low with the human species.

3FORADIME ADVICE: Train your animals at a young age to listen and obey you. Discipline on your part is what makes a pet’s best qualities shine. If you are inconsistent with children or pets, they will take advantage of that. And some, given a chance, will become the dog or cat in charge in a home you provide. Don’t let that happen with offspring, nor domesticated pets.